Ep 36: Supercharged by Ancestral Support: Finding Joy Beyond Healing

In this heartfelt and reflective episode of Because I’ve Healed, Asha takes us on a walk—literally and spiritually—through her journey of ancestral connection and intuitive growth. Fresh from leading a retreat for founders in the Bay Area, she shares the powerful realization that her healed ancestors are propelling her forward with unstoppable energy.

Asha challenges the common belief that ancestral work is only about healing past trauma. Instead, she invites us to tap into the joy, support, and momentum that our ancestors can provide. She shares how this connection has freed her from guilt, helped her embrace a life of ease, and allowed her to fully step into the dreams she once only imagined.

In This Episode, Asha Discusses

✨ How connecting with healed ancestors can supercharge your life

✨ Releasing guilt and embracing freedom as a first-generation professiona

✨ Why ancestral support isn’t just about healing—it’s about thriving

✨ The power of intuition in shaping a joyful, fulfilling life

✨ A thought-provoking question: What kind of joy could you access if you knew your ancestors were fully behind you?

Let’s Continue the Conversation

Asha wants to hear from you! Reflect on the question and send her a message on Instagram ⁠@ashawilkersonesq⁠. How do you connect with your ancestors? What dreams could you manifest with their support?

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• Read the Transcript (unedited)

  Asha (00:00.303)

  Welcome back to another episode of Because I've Healed. This is a little different. I am taking a walk in my mom's neighborhood. I am back from Lisbon for about a month total because I had an opportunity to lead a retreat for founders, business owners in the Bay Area. And the cool thing is that I used to work with this same organization that hired me as an attorney during their business and

  legal coaching for founders. And then when I told them that I was moving on and I was doing witchy woo woo stuff now, they said, oh, perfect. And you'd actually be a great person to lead a retreat for the founders. So that's what brought me back to the Bay Area. And then I just came up to San Francisco, I mean, from San Francisco to Portland to visit my mama bear. So I'm taking a walk through the neighborhood. So I am out of breath because there's a slight incline in movement uphill.

  But I just wanted to try this because I get all kinds of messages and downloads and I get them in the moment and then I don't do anything about them in the moment. And then I go to record something or write something and then I'm like, I've lost it. I'm completely lost. So let me just try this in the moment. So we'll see how it goes. You have to let me know how you like it. So one thing I just saw today.

  that I reposted in my stories. It was this image of this little boy standing on like a kayak or like a boat that you would row for crew. And the people in the boat were moving really, really fast. And the caption was, you know, me with my guides and my ancestors and my spiritual team behind me. And of course he was moving way faster or the boat was moving way faster than any of the other

  kayaks or like crew boats in there. And that just like really resonated with me. There's something that I'm feeling right now in my life where I feel like I'm supercharged. I feel like I am supercharged even though there are still things that I'm working on, even though there's, you know, not everything is perfect, even though I am, you know,

  Asha (02:20.652)

  still looking at making more money, even though I'm still waiting on my residency in Portugal. But there's something that has happened since I really got connected with my guides and my ancestors. And it is that feeling of being supercharged. It is that feeling of feeling like I've got so many people and like so much support behind me that, even a little doggy on the walk.

  And that there's so many people and so much support behind me that there's literally nothing that will stand in my way. I have never felt like that before in my life. And I 100 % without a doubt know that it has everything to do with my spiritual connection and my intuitive connection.

  And I just want to put that out there because we often hear about ancestral healing, right? or connecting with our ancestors from a place of healing, a place of like going back and reworking trauma. But I don't, that's not my position. There's things to go back and heal, but there's so much joy to get. There are so many dreams to build.

  There's so much stuff to do that you can do and do well and do with the support of your ancestors. Now I'm at my old elementary school. You go sit on the swing so you can actually hear me because I'm still out of breath. Yeah, There's just so much to do. right? There's so much that we can have. And it's not all about healing. And I don't want you just to think that

  when you connect with your ancestors that you have to go back down to these deep, like dark, painful past experiences to connect with your ancestors. That's not what I'm doing. I have connected to the ones, the energies and the spirits of the ones that are healed, that are whole, that have a vision for me, the ones who are supportive. And literally I'm just saying, okay, when I intend to connect, when I...

  Asha (04:42.794)

  meditate and things like that. Like I'm inviting in the whole and healed ancestors, the ones who want nothing but good for me, the ones who are healthy and able to help me. And for those of you who are not yet healed, I acknowledge you, but now is not my time to work with you. And then I wait until I feel connected. And then sometimes I'll ask questions like, what do you want me to know? Or what should I know about this situation? Or

  You know, I'm feeling like I don't have support right now. Can you support me or I'm working on selling this thing? I need you team to be behind me and to help me out. And I feel like they do. I feel the energy of it. Sometimes things happen. Maybe I'll get an email with an opportunity or something like that or I'll make a sale. But oftentimes it's just the feeling of being supported. And so I want you to know.

  that when you connect with your ancestors, when you connect with your guides, it does not have to be diving into this place of like deep healing. It does not have to be painful. It doesn't have to be draining. I want you to connect to the joy, to the love, to the support that you can build forward. It doesn't mean that at some point you won't have to go back and address things, but I want you to pull and enjoy.

  I really want you to pull in joy. So as I was thinking about that, the video that I saw, go to my, well, by the time you see this, my stories will be expired, but I'll see if I can, maybe I'll post it in my feed on Instagram. But I want you to think about like, what kind of joy can you access or would you access or what kind of dreams would you dream if you knew that your ancestors were behind you a thousand percent?

  And not just behind you a thousand percent, but like had some super bionic, row boat power that is stronger than any human and could get you there faster, get you there with more ease, get you there wherever there is for you with more flow. And just to think about like, what would that feel like for you to have that energetic support behind you? What would that feel like to really dream

  Asha (07:07.242)

  and to not have limitations behind it. What would it feel like to be able to ask your guys and your ancestors for support and to say like, I just need you right now and to not question whether or not they're going to show up. That's how I feel right now. And I was thinking back to a couple of weeks ago when people were, was, know, marketing is always a struggle for me, but I was thinking back to

  you know, okay, what can I show? What can I do? And I'm not somebody who likes to do things for show. Even when I had a photo shoot a couple of weeks ago and my friend who took the photos was like, okay, do what you would do if you were to really connect. And I'm like, I don't do all of this in front of people unless it's in a group setting where we're doing it together. And it was so hard for me to like fake it, right? It was so hard for me to fake it. But we were talking about what

  kinds of things I could show or demonstrate and somebody said, show when you go to a cafe. And I'm like, I don't really go to cafes. I got a place in Lisbon that I really like and it has enough room to have my own office. I don't really go to cafes. Okay, well show when you go to the museum. Yeah, I have museums on my list of places to visit, but I actually don't go to museums regularly. And then I have this thought of like, oh my God.

  What do I even do? But you know what I do? I do exactly what I want to do. I do exactly what I have dreamed of doing. I have created this life for myself that I used to write about and dream about. I said I wanted to get up without an alarm. I said I wanted to get up and make coffee and sit by big picture windows. I want a place with lots of light. I want to work out regularly. I want to have opportunities to connect. I want to hear music. I want to be able to dance.

  And I want to do work that lights me up, that doesn't feel like I'm going to work anymore. And all of those things have come true for me. Except for with the exception is I'm still teaching part-time and that does still feel like work, but I'm building out my own business. And I realized that I am actually living the dream that I created. And what really opened that up for me was connecting to my intuition

  Asha (09:30.503)

  to help me make decisions to get to where I am and being in contact with my ancestors because my healed ancestors, that connection has helped me not feel so guilty about leaving this American dream. It has helped me not feel so guilty. Like people of color, immigrants, like we get it, right?

  Our parents and our families have sacrificed so much for us to be where we are. And when we decide that we want to do something different, that wasn't what they sacrificed for us to do, we feel guilty because we have all this opportunity and we don't want to do the corporate. We don't want to do this. It's hard to buy a house now and like all of these things, right? And so there's that maybe survivor's guilt for some of us. There's that first gen guilt for some of us. There's that

  just like success guilt that we get to choose a different path than what our parents chose.

  Asha (10:32.911)

  trying to figure out how to hold this case. Okay, There's that success guilt that we get to choose a different path than what our parents had to go through. And I promise you y'all, I was having a really hard time doing that even though nobody in my family said that I shouldn't go to Lisbon. Nobody in my family said that I had to keep being an attorney. But because I am obviously aware of the sacrifices that my family has made and the challenges.

  Just that that generation had to go through for me to be here, for me to be a licensed California attorney. It took a, It was the connection with my ancestors that made me realize that I don't have to struggle if I don't want to struggle. That the sacrifice that they had made my parents, but even the ancestors, the ancestors before them had made was for my freedom, not for me to continue to struggle, not for me to be caught up in a system that

  doesn't serve me, not for me to be miserable, not for me to be in this capitalist game when it is killing me inside. Their sacrifices, their wishes, their desires for me are for freedom. Freedom and liberty wherever, however, everywhere that I can have it and in every way that I can have it. But I wasn't able to access that until I developed my own relationship. And that, y'all, has given me joy.

  I am joyful. I am joyful, joyful, joyful. I don't always show it on here because I'm not subdued, but I don't know. Maybe it probably doesn't come across on camera. But now that I've been back in the Bay Area and have seen some friends and stuff, they're like, my God, you look so happy. And I'm like, you know what? I am. you just look like you're so full of joy. I'm like, you know what? I am. And sometimes it took me a minute to kind of realize that because again, it's a break from the culture shift that

  I have been in where everything is a fight, everything is a struggle, but y'all, I am happy. I am really, really content. There's still things that I want, there are still things that I want, and that's fine, but I am really, really content. And I can tell you that connecting with my ancestors and developing my intuition, developing myself spiritually, has done more for me than anything else I've ever done. So I'm gonna leave you

  Asha (12:56.565)

  with that. I want you to ask yourself until the next episode, I want you to think about this. If you connected with your ancestors and you asked them what kind of joy could you access through them or how could they help you get joy, what would the answer be? And I would love for you to write back on the podcast

  or send me a message on Instagram, ashawilkersonesq, and let me know what you think, because joy is your birthright. Joy is the hope for you from your healed ancestors. All you have to do is make a choice to go and get it.